[This post is for AGP males - straight guys that deeply wish they were gay women. If this isn’t you, the post isn’t for or about you.] I know it’s hard to believe right now. You’re stuck in a male body. It is undesirable. No one wants you. No one is attracted to you with a deep, grasping-at-the-pelvic-core, I-want-to-subsume-you-into-my-soul type of hunger. Everywhere you look you see beautiful, angelic beings. People who draw you like riptide over the rocks of your own desire. You want them, and you want to be them. Can you even imagine what two such people would be like, swirling around and into each other? A roaring whirlpool of desire-feedback.
Proud to know an AGP male who's refusing to buy the lies that lead to self loathing and despair. Keep sharing your insights and your journey! Other AGP males and the people who love them need to l feel visible and validated. ❤️
First, can you explain or link to a defense of AGP as a legitimate category of transexuals? Given that the term was established by a sexology researcher in the 90's who believed other blatantly false things (such as women don't have paraphilias) I'm not willing to assume it as a framing a priori
Second, I'm someone who others might describe as AGP, transition has been great for me!
Third, whilst it's impossible to say what the base rates are, this post is indistinguishable from things other people who are now trans women said before they transitioned, and who are now much happier as a result. Given uncertainty about base rates, why should I believe you're correct about this?
Fourth, have you ever tried exploring feminine presentations? I know a number of people who felt like this until they actually tried to do something about it.
I hope this doesn't come off as hostile, I think that being correct about this is important. If your claims are correct, that matters a lot, if your claims are wrong, that matters a lot.
"You get a few distinguished lines in your face, some silver in your hair, and women just start to get interested. It’s insane."
As someone with "distinguished" (or at least distinct) lines and some silver in my hair, I can say: This is not true unless you're talking in both cases about /women who are the same age as you/. I don't want young guys misled into believing that many beautiful young women will find them attractive when they're 50. George Clooney, yes. You, no.
Great and inspiring post. I have a couple bits of (hopefully) constructive criticism though.
> Instead you’re gross and scary and just your presence somewhere degrades the quality of life & experience for others in the area.
I know you’re working on overcoming this attitude in your own life and I have a suggestion that I hope helps. Caveat every thought you have and line you write with something like “the lie that…” It’s an un-truth and shaking it requires active effort.
> Yeah, fine, you won’t ever be a sexy woman having sexy sex with other sexy women.
Second thing is never say never! I’m in a possible glorious transhuman future we’ll all get to have all the sexy sex we want. :)
Proud to know an AGP male who's refusing to buy the lies that lead to self loathing and despair. Keep sharing your insights and your journey! Other AGP males and the people who love them need to l feel visible and validated. ❤️
Couple of things
First, can you explain or link to a defense of AGP as a legitimate category of transexuals? Given that the term was established by a sexology researcher in the 90's who believed other blatantly false things (such as women don't have paraphilias) I'm not willing to assume it as a framing a priori
Second, I'm someone who others might describe as AGP, transition has been great for me!
Third, whilst it's impossible to say what the base rates are, this post is indistinguishable from things other people who are now trans women said before they transitioned, and who are now much happier as a result. Given uncertainty about base rates, why should I believe you're correct about this?
Fourth, have you ever tried exploring feminine presentations? I know a number of people who felt like this until they actually tried to do something about it.
I hope this doesn't come off as hostile, I think that being correct about this is important. If your claims are correct, that matters a lot, if your claims are wrong, that matters a lot.
"You get a few distinguished lines in your face, some silver in your hair, and women just start to get interested. It’s insane."
As someone with "distinguished" (or at least distinct) lines and some silver in my hair, I can say: This is not true unless you're talking in both cases about /women who are the same age as you/. I don't want young guys misled into believing that many beautiful young women will find them attractive when they're 50. George Clooney, yes. You, no.
Great and inspiring post. I have a couple bits of (hopefully) constructive criticism though.
> Instead you’re gross and scary and just your presence somewhere degrades the quality of life & experience for others in the area.
I know you’re working on overcoming this attitude in your own life and I have a suggestion that I hope helps. Caveat every thought you have and line you write with something like “the lie that…” It’s an un-truth and shaking it requires active effort.
> Yeah, fine, you won’t ever be a sexy woman having sexy sex with other sexy women.
Second thing is never say never! I’m in a possible glorious transhuman future we’ll all get to have all the sexy sex we want. :)
Excellent and heart-warming!
I was confused by "No one tells you that men peak in attractiveness much later in life" though.