This is going to sound like the most bizarre advice imaginable… I feel weird just thinking about giving it… but it seems so simultaneously obvious and ridiculous that I don’t know how to approach it aside from just saying it outright.
Oh I definitely don't like humans in general, I want them to prosper but that's different than liking them. Most of them are just not enjoyable.
I don't have a "generalized disdain and animus towards the male sex" and "violently dangerous" is not how I see men in general, and though I do find most men "unpleasant to be around" that is also true of most people regardless of gender.
I wouldn't say "men are good" because I wouldn't say "people are good". Let's be real, most people are mildly abusive especially to children.
But lots of the people I like and think are good are men, probably most of them. The men I like, as friends or romantic interests or whatever, are usually more feminine than the average man but I like their masculinity and their maleness too. That's part of their appeal, and I don't just mean sexually.
This feels like it was written by someone who is Very Online. A general disdain for men might be something that Uber Leftists do, but it’s very out of touch with my own experience of how women feel (and I’d bet whatever research there is on misandry would confirm this).
This was my life from late grade school through a few years ago, when I deliberately began to change my social environment. The public internet didn't yet exist when I was in grade school. I was raised (and until recently always lived) in very Blue circles.
I really appreciated the last three essays, particular once I saw that (with the connecting link of the middle one) that they form a trilogy of sorts.
Oh I definitely don't like humans in general, I want them to prosper but that's different than liking them. Most of them are just not enjoyable.
I don't have a "generalized disdain and animus towards the male sex" and "violently dangerous" is not how I see men in general, and though I do find most men "unpleasant to be around" that is also true of most people regardless of gender.
I wouldn't say "men are good" because I wouldn't say "people are good". Let's be real, most people are mildly abusive especially to children.
But lots of the people I like and think are good are men, probably most of them. The men I like, as friends or romantic interests or whatever, are usually more feminine than the average man but I like their masculinity and their maleness too. That's part of their appeal, and I don't just mean sexually.
This feels like it was written by someone who is Very Online. A general disdain for men might be something that Uber Leftists do, but it’s very out of touch with my own experience of how women feel (and I’d bet whatever research there is on misandry would confirm this).
This was my life from late grade school through a few years ago, when I deliberately began to change my social environment. The public internet didn't yet exist when I was in grade school. I was raised (and until recently always lived) in very Blue circles.
Indeed. I relate to what you said and understand where The Water Line is coming from as well.
Damn straight.
Eh, some of the bis are OK.
I generally like men and it also involves avoiding specific men that behave in a way that might lead me to dislike men or like them less.
To those men, I am a man-hater. But I avoid them so that I retain my capacity to love men.
So how did you two meet?