[By AGP males I mean straight guys who deeply wish they were gay women. This doesn’t apply to anyone who doesn’t fit that description.]
This post will be a lot more negative than my previous one, which I hate. But also I don’t know anyone else saying it? ugh. here we go.
In my previous post on AGP I assert that for AGP males, it really does get better! We’ll never have 100% of what we want but with time and persistence we really can get everything we need. Life can and will be sweet, if you hang on.
When it is suggested to me that I transition, the implication is that transitioning is not a big deal, and will give me what I want. Both of these things are lies, and I really hate being lied to. Like, a lot. It’s one of my major hates in life, and one of the easiest ways to make me ragequit a whole movement.
Getting hormones in my area is super easy. I’m in a Blue urban area, just outside the city, I can get hormones basically by request within a few weeks.
Hormones will make things worse.
Recall that I want to have a sexy female body to seduce other sexy women that also are turned on by hot female bodies. If the other person doesn’t desire me on a primal level the way I desire them, I don’t have shit.
I will not have a sexy female body. I’m 6’2”, with a ton of body hair, prominent adam’s apple, and too much jaw. (Most men in the US also have too much fat in addition to my issues.) Taking hormones is cheap, and all it does for most men is give us a trans body. Acceptable if one is dysphoric and needs to not be in their natal-sex body. But a cruel joke for AGP males.
At a minimum, most men would require $100k+ in surgery and years under the knife & laser. (And that’s assuming you won the genetic lottery — many couldn’t pull this off even with such interventions.) Recovery from surgery is painful and long. This is, in fact, a very big deal, and suggesting someone should trans themselves lightly is so callous it’s hard for me to remain charitable.
In addition, most lesbians don’t want to have sex with a dick. Bottom surgery is a fairly extreme procedure, and it has a high complication rate. Just how much are we being urged to commit to, on what is a whim for the recommender? And once all that is done… will we actually be sexually attractive to sexy lesbians? (This is a question that is never even touched on, much less objectively evaluated.)
I don’t think most AGP men transition. I do think that there are many who are bombarded with messages similar to what I’ve received: that it’s pretty easy, and I’ll be a woman, and I can choose to have lesbian sex just like anyone born a woman.
The audacity of the lie is still staggering. I’ll be a “woman” if you mean I can make most people affirm that I belong to a woman-gender. But I don’t care about gender. I don’t want affirmations. AGP dudes in general don’t give a damn about gender. We don’t want to be affirmed as women. We want to be actual women. For the majority of us, this is an impossibility. (For those with the genes to pull it off - mazel tov! :) )
What is possible, even if it is hard, is to deal with reality by not dwelling on something we can never have. “Transitioning” takes this away. The psychological damage caused by pining for an impossibility for decades is substantial. The false hope of current transition tech cripples one’s ability to move on. It becomes a doom-spiral, an attractor for mental illness. It destroys people. And every single asshole who pretends that being “acknowledged socially as a woman” is the same thing as having a female body is contributing to the immiseration of my people.
(This is why the theft of words matters.)
Most of us can come to an uneasy truce with reality. Eventually, one can experience The Best Feeling In The World. As long as you didn’t fuck things up too badly in your youth. As long as you didn’t destroy the masculinity that those women want and will be looking for.
Hold out for the singularity and true morphological freedom. We’ll get there eventually. At that point, all bets are off and we can go nuts. :) Until then, far more women will deeply, primally desire you if you accept and mature your masculine traits, rather than trying to be a half-assed woman. There’s an insane amount of ladies with a competent-masculinity-kink out there, and you can help them satiate that hunger! Don’t let that be taken away from you.
I love his thoughts on this subject. I didn't know about this worldview and now that I do - it helps me be a better friend to anyone I meet who is or maybe a GP. I wonder if there is a female equivalent?