The dearth of comments doesn't mean people didn't appreciate this post. It's so "perfect" that commenting on it seems like throwing mud on a diamond.
But I'll do it anyway.
I fear I've missed out on something because of some knowledge I lacked. I've been at events similar to the one in your photo, many times. In college I was desperate to connect with the exciting college night life, and spent--I would say wasted--hundreds of nights out at, or throwing, parties of all kinds. I rushed a fraternity and helped throw some of the most-notorious parties in Buffalo. And I never made any lasting connections during a party. While planning a party, yes; while actually dancing / shouting / elbowing thru a crowd, no.
The photo you've taken looks like the kind of party I hated most: the dance party with bad lighting and, I presume, painfully loud music you can feel in your body. I never understood why anyone wanted to go to these. It was impossible to say a word to anyone. I'd have to lean into their ear and shout the same thing 2 or 3 times before they could figure out what I was saying. It seemed to me that the entire purpose of these events was to eliminate speech and force people to interact like animals during mating season, all body language.
Am I mistaken? I never saw a party or a night club with both dancing and funky lighting that didn't have music playing so loudly that conversation was impossible. Was this different, or is there some non-sexual way of interacting with people at these parties that I never discovered?
Yeah, the dance areas are awful for conversation, I basically don't bother. If someone tries to speak more than a sentence or two I get kinda annoyed at them. ^^;
Key is that this is the area you go to dance, and I think the music is this loud on purpose specifically so it will be impossible to talk. Don't talk here!
There are (or *should be*) places that you can talk. At the clubs I go to these are the "smoking areas", which I put in quotes now because the majority of people don't even smoke there, they're just out there to talk. Some people do smoke, which is unfortunate, but its the price one pays to talk.
Also many of the connections were even necessarily in the club. Many are! But people throw house parties/gatherings with more reasonable sound levels and many rooms without music, and sometimes you just get together with people for lunch/dinner somewhere to chat.
The dearth of comments doesn't mean people didn't appreciate this post. It's so "perfect" that commenting on it seems like throwing mud on a diamond.
But I'll do it anyway.
I fear I've missed out on something because of some knowledge I lacked. I've been at events similar to the one in your photo, many times. In college I was desperate to connect with the exciting college night life, and spent--I would say wasted--hundreds of nights out at, or throwing, parties of all kinds. I rushed a fraternity and helped throw some of the most-notorious parties in Buffalo. And I never made any lasting connections during a party. While planning a party, yes; while actually dancing / shouting / elbowing thru a crowd, no.
The photo you've taken looks like the kind of party I hated most: the dance party with bad lighting and, I presume, painfully loud music you can feel in your body. I never understood why anyone wanted to go to these. It was impossible to say a word to anyone. I'd have to lean into their ear and shout the same thing 2 or 3 times before they could figure out what I was saying. It seemed to me that the entire purpose of these events was to eliminate speech and force people to interact like animals during mating season, all body language.
Am I mistaken? I never saw a party or a night club with both dancing and funky lighting that didn't have music playing so loudly that conversation was impossible. Was this different, or is there some non-sexual way of interacting with people at these parties that I never discovered?
Yeah, the dance areas are awful for conversation, I basically don't bother. If someone tries to speak more than a sentence or two I get kinda annoyed at them. ^^;
Key is that this is the area you go to dance, and I think the music is this loud on purpose specifically so it will be impossible to talk. Don't talk here!
There are (or *should be*) places that you can talk. At the clubs I go to these are the "smoking areas", which I put in quotes now because the majority of people don't even smoke there, they're just out there to talk. Some people do smoke, which is unfortunate, but its the price one pays to talk.
Also many of the connections were even necessarily in the club. Many are! But people throw house parties/gatherings with more reasonable sound levels and many rooms without music, and sometimes you just get together with people for lunch/dinner somewhere to chat.