This post by Ken Burnside is illuminating. This is the sort of thing we need, to keep a dialog open and reduce hostility. Obviously I don't agree with everything, but it's a good post.
Normally I post the text of things that appear on FB, but this is very long, and I feel too much like it would be just plain stealing content if I copy/pasted it wholesale. So, if you don't have FB or can't follow the link, I am sorry. :(